Welcome to Find Your Nudge

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This web site has been developed to help me organise all the information I have gathered during my career. I wanted to see for myself all the actions and ideas I have learned over the years – all in one place. I feel that they have been so close to me, for so long, that I needed to see what the wood would look like… and not be so lost in the trees!

Therefore, building this web site is my late-in-life, safe experiment.

I believe it is an experiment that may be of use to others. I think, in particular, of clients – both past and present. Anyone with a natural curiosity may find it helpful to practise the safe experiments introduced on this web site. Overtime, you will create and develop your own MY-NUAL.

To use this web site, and the rest of my blog, try this:

Look to the right of this page and notice the ARTICLES heading. Head for the page headed ‘How to give yourself a nudge’. This is my main blog – a large production you can search or peruse at your leisure. It tries to be practical about how to nudge yourself into making changes in your life – but only if you want to do that!

At any stage, you can look at the other posts; these are mostly shorter and more detailed commentaries on items contained in the blog itself. Those are located on the right of most pages on this web site.

You should be able to move back-and-forth between the different pages and posts, so let me know if you hit a snag navigating my web site. You can do this by adding a comment or sending an email to:


Email are best if there are specific questions so my feedback can be incorporated into a ‘post’ or another page of commentary.

All the material on How To Give Yourself A Nudge has been generated working with a large number of people over decades. None of it would have been tested without the support of all those clients, colleagues, teachers, family and friends. Sadly, at this stage in my life, some folk have died and moved on – what a hell of an experiment that is!

The practical nudges, or experiments, included here have worked for somebody, at some time.

You will chose your own way to use this material. Make it your own and find out what works for you – in the knowledge that no-one can tell you what will work until you have a go. You will need to cast around to find material most suited to you and your present circumstances.

You need not read this web site page by page. Use the search function to seek out topics of relevance to you; dip back and forth and see what emerges. Please note that the SEARCH box on the blog may be less helpful than the SEARCH facility on your own browser. This option should become more important as my blog becomes more extensive. I will help further by making hyper-links to topics, e.g. depression, trauma.

You may need to left-click or right click (to obtain a new window), when using hyper-links. By the nature of the Internet, hyper-links can come and go. Do let me know when one particular link appears to be redundant. I’ll look out an alternative.

I do not want you to follow the nudges included here simply because I recommend them. There a lot of nudges I recommend. Some will be relevant to you; others will not. I expect them to boost your confidence as you recognise a nudge for what it is. When you take your own steps it can lead to an improved ability to build on success or adapt to getting it wrong.

I will use personal example from time to time to see if that adds some richness to the learning of others. I do not want this to be self-indulgent; I believe my proposals may appear more genuine if I tell you how the material applies to me.

The material you are about to generate can provide a tool for your own personal development.  However, some of it may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. If you need some leads to follow up, then let me know. Although this may sound like self-advertising, I do emphasise that there are many people who can act as a consultant. The important things is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.

September 2018 Some Changes

I have had many months to get some measure of the impact of ‘safe experiments’ on people I have met – in person and on-line.  Some now seek a more on-going professional reply to work through a specific safe experiment.

If this applies to you, then let me know through my email or the ‘shop’ page. Costs for any on-going work can be negotiated but I start at:

EMAIL: all initial emails are free of charge and, £5 per follow-up (including any attachments required).

As I am a one-man band, you will be lucky to find me immediately available. The Skype facility has been added to enable us to have some real conversation  …. BY APPOINTMENT.

Do let me have 2/3 suggestions for a time to meet (using GMT, please). Please give me at least three days notice of your proposed dates.

My aim in offering this additional facility, is to support you with the design and implementation of ‘safe experiments’, and not to take over your process.

SKYPE: £30-50 per full hour, to be negotiated.

FACE-TO-FACE: £30-£60 provided you are in reach of my own consulting rooms in Central Norfolk, UK. An initial consultation is available free of charge. This is not the start of therapy, but an opportunity to ask questions about therapy.

This email link can be used to alert me to your enquiry.

Fees are set to cover my time and costs – not to make a large profit. My aim remains to support people, from all walks of life, to design and implement their own safe experiments.

As ever,  your email feedback remains very welcome. It will be received by me and acted on. Several amendments to my blog have come from the comments and questions you have raised since I started this on-line project in 2016.

Thank you to all who have read and responded to my material.

A note on Advertising: you should find no advertisements on this blogs. All hyperlinks are offered to you, by me, without any inducements or encouragement.

It will be helpful to me if you could post comments on the various articles and comments to be found on the right of this Welcome page..

Alternatively, start on the main pages of my Blog:

How to Give Yourself and Nudge

where you will find the practical suggestions i have collected from many people over the years.

You can find out more about me on: About the Author page.