As I welcome you into my internet home, let me introduce myself. I am Robin. I am a semi-retired registered counselling psychologist working in the UK.
You have just seen my ‘welcome’ picture. This illustration shows one scenic route shaped by choices you and I make in our lives. I’ll be taking this picture apart to show how the website is structured and how it might work for you.
Before I say more about that, I’d like you to help me with a practical way this picture of the scenic route can be used.
Even now I am offering a choice. You can accept my words of encouragement and read on, or you can touch on this hyperlink and use this website in a different way. There are other options; some people will have left off consulting this website by now!
So for those wanting to go with this line of enquiry; I’d ask you to go back to the picture:
NUDGE ONE: going back and forth between my picture and my words: that’s one nudge from me.
NUDGE TWO: Take another look at the illustration. Notice one specific detail that catches your eye. The choice you make is your own nudge.
NUDGE THREE: Stop for a moment and make a mental note of how do you respond to the detail you lighted on? Perhaps with excitement, anxiety, puzzlement or what? I cannot know; only offer up a few suggestions. Here I offer a nudge – without knowing what the outcome is for you.
NUDGE FOUR: View the picture once more. Make a mental note of the specific mention of ‘obstacles’. With that, you may become aware of an obstacle in your present life. This time make a brief written note of the thoughts, feelings and sensations that arise when some ‘obstacles’ on your present scenic route are brought to mind. This action is called a Body Scan. The ‘four’ nudges to date provide an opportunity you may choose to pursue, or not.
NUDGE FIVE: consider if there is just one small thing you might do this afternoon or tomorrow that helps you manage that obstacle just a little bit differently. Here is a potential nudge that only you can generate.
The rest of this website develops specific examples in greater depth. Using them may enable you to build on the successes you discover. When you meet an obstacle, or a temporary small defeats, it is possible to help ourselves to learn or change.
As the saying goes: any journey, however long, starts with the first step. You are – as of now – already on a journey.
So let’s take a sixth step.
If this web site says anything, it is that you can make a difference for yourself. The information in it, and the contributions from so many people, are focused on maximising the chance of doing something just a little bit different.
Through those steps, can you be some-body just a little bit different.
A good starting point might be a First Nudge for you to consider. That’s a suggestion, not a requirement but the material you could generate now may identify tools suitable for your own personal development.
However, some of the pages may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. The important thing is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.
For some outcomes or challenges, you may conclude that the support of a well-qualified therapeutic practitioner is necessary. You could decide whether to include Dr Mason or myself via a free initial consultation.
The website is made up of many pages describing a number of small, safe experiments.
I’ll admit there are a lot of words and illustrations spread throughout this website. This is difficult to avoid as I want you to have quite a few choices when designing your own safe experiment.
Therefore, please let me know if the detail helps or hinders you in planning any changes in your life. I make several changes to the website each week, and would like to include your suggestions.
You can get in touch directly on the contact form, below. One of my aims is to improve my approach with your feedback. Many people have provided this already.
If you are to ask to visit me in person, then you may be interested in my background. As I work in a partnership, you will find details relating to Dr Christina Mason. She is a psycho-therapist and my tolerant wife.
You can contact either of us via the form, below or read on – to my ‘letter’ to you.
If you want to know more about us, do take a look at: What more can we offer?
…… with the one important consideration: I cannot do the work for you.
Now to take apart that scenic route. To see how I do this please visit this page. An alternative action can be to follow some other leads.
I am including a few here to make a start.
Leads you may find helpful
….. and a final page to explore every entry on this website (now there’s a challenge!)
Here is a way to make direct contact with Christina Mason or myself.
….. and, finally, for now, after you have done a few safe experiments, consider:
…… and how you might end some work?