Welcome to Find Your Nudge

I am Robin. 

I am a semi-retired chartered and registered psychologist in the UK.

For those planning to visit me in person, you may be interested in my background. These details are in About the Author. In addition, on that page, there is a video so you can see who you are visiting!!

The web site provides a large collection of safe experiments that I have collated with my clients over decades. We have designed and tried them out over many years.

If this web site is about any thing, it is a psychological form of  “personalised medicine” with at least one rather important difference:  personalised medicine cannot afford to fail routinely; people can die. However, this website demonstrates that a small defeat arising from a small, safe experiment is an essential part of effective psychological therapy.

Here is a starter for 10, as they say: What does the picture below mean to you? If it is puzzling, take a moment to focus on it. Just notice the thoughts coming into your head – whatever comes. 

Maybe write down any reactions or questions – the first 100 words that arrive.You may find it interesting if you return to these first thoughts sometime in the future.

 

Inverted Tree 4

What choices will you make to direct your new roots in a different direction today?

I feel that these small, safe experiments have been so close to me, for so long, that I needed to see what the wood would look like… and not be so lost in the trees!

Therefore, building this web site is my late-in-life, safe experiment – with thanks to my son, Alan for technical help and my daughter, Jane for inspiration.

I believe my experiment may be of use to others. I think, in particular, of clients – both past, present and to come. Anyone with a natural curiosity may find it helpful to practise the safe experiments identified on this web site.

Overtime, you will create and develop your own MY-NUAL.

Science warning: I have been asked about the way small, safe experiments are different from those used by conventional scientists. There are large differences – not least because the same experiment will often end up with a different result, at different times – andI say that it’s OK for that to happen!

Let me know your views on these differences as you read on.

 

POSSIBLE WAYS FORWARD

A first preparation might be to have on hand a note book that will record the results of your enquiries and the different results you are about to generate.

One way forward:  take a look to the right of this page and notice the various headings. You could choose one page quite randomly. That’s a safe experiment; either the page will have some meaning to you,  or it might not. Whatever happens – it’s not your fault; nor is it my fault.  It’s simply the result of the action you have taken.

A small safe experiment has to have a result and that result has to be noticed.

So, what do you learn when a page has some meaning [I call this a small victory] and, more importantly, what do you learn when a page appears confusing or without meaning [I call this a small defeat].  More importantly again, what do you do about your small victory or your small defeat.

A further way forward would be to use the Search box. That’s at the top, right of THIS page.

Search for any word of interest to you. You could do that now. When you type in your chosen word, and press the search button, a number of pages will be listed containing your chosen word. Then you have an additional small, safe experiment available to you; chose just one page to explore in greater detail and see if that says anything to you at all!

What word would you choose to search?

A final way forward I would suggestion would be to head for the page headed ‘What is a nudge‘. This provides my first thoughts on ‘nudging’. There, I start to explain about ‘safe experimenting’, and offer some examples.  It is an introduction to nudging yourself into making changes in your life when you want to do that!

There is at least one other choice you have at hand:  not to do any of the things I have suggested.

Let me know if you hit a snag navigating my web site. You can do this by adding a comment – usually found at the bottom of the page – or by sending an email to:

robintrewartha@btinternet.com.

Email is best if there are specific questions so my feedback can be incorporated into a another page of commentary. You will notice how, over several years now, additional pages have appeared based on questions I have been asked, or comments made by visitors.

It will help me if you post a comment on my contribution to the practice of psychological therapy.

 

You need not read this website page by page.

You may need to left-click or right click (to obtain a new window), when using hyper-links. By the nature of the Internet, hyper-links can come and go. Do let me know when one particular link no longer works. I’ll look out an alternative.

I do not want you to follow the nudges included here simply because I recommend them.

There a lot of nudges I recommend; these are based on things I have seen others try.

Some will be relevant to you; others will not. The timing for one nudge may not be quite right today; another time, the same nudge may hit the nail on the head.

I want my information to help you recognise a nudge for what it is. When you design your own steps it can lead to an improved ability to build on successes or adapt to unexpected/unwanted results. Often adaptations are forced on us, as we discovered in the Spring 2020 pubic health crisis. Those changes do not mean there are still no choices open to us.

I will use personal example from time to time to see if that adds some richness to the learning of others. I do not want this to appear self-indulgent and I believe my proposals may appear more genuine if I tell you how the material applies to me.

The material you are about to generate can provide a tool for your own personal development.  However, some of it may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. If you need some leads to follow up, then let me know. 

The important things is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.

For some outcomes, you may conclude that the support of a well-qualified practitioner is necessary.

When I designed this web site, I wanted to use an organised approach. I went with the dimensions of SPACE, TIME, BODY and SPIRITThese four categories help to shape me intowho I am today. Each category offers to provide a whole range of safe experiments.

Over time, I have created links to other websites of interest as well as to other pages on this website. All this is intended to help with your research into how you might design your own small, safe experiment. It’s difficult to learn or adapt without respecting the results of your own actions; your own safe experiments.

Each element of space, time, body and spirit will play a part in determining who we are – shaping the problems that are presented to us, defining the way we face them, and what milestones we achieve (or not) as we develop and grow.

A note on Advertising: you should find no advertisements on this web site.  I have been offered no inducement to provide a substantial number of hyperlinks. They simply worked for me when I completed my research for this site.


If it helps, you can find out more about me on: About the Author page. You can find out more about my own view of therapy here. I doubt it’s the best place to start, but that’s for you to decide.

Some other pages that might be of interest are:

What is a nudge

How to design small, safe experiments

Safe experiments in time and space

Safe experiments using Smart Objectives

Relaxation techniques

Body Scanning and ‘thinking-about-breathing’

Communicating with small, safe experiments

Taking your time

Safe experiments and our ‘spirit’

….. and, finally, for now, after you have done a few safe experiments, consider:

how will you review the work you have done