Welcome to Find Your Nudge

I am Robin. 

I am a semi-retired chartered and registered psychologist in the UK.

For those planning to visit me in person, you may be interested in my background. These details are in About the Author. In addition, on that page, there is a video so you can see who you are visiting!!

As I work in a partnership, you will find details relating to Dr Christina Mason to the right as well. She is a psycho-therapist.

The web site provides a large collection of safe experiments that I have gathered from my clients over decades.  They have been tried out over many years.  Although no experiment always works, most things described here have worked, sometimes, for some people.

If this web site is about any thing, it is a psychological form of  “personalised medicine” with at least one rather important difference:  personalised medicine cannot afford to fail routinely; people can die.   By contrast, this website demonstrates that a small defeat – arising from a small, safe experiment – is an essential part of effective psychological therapy.

There is another important difference: I cannot do the work for you. Sometimes, a pill can make a difference,  but even that pill requires your body to co-operate with it.  I believe you may be a little more in charge of that body than you think!

If this web site says anything, it is that you can make a difference for yourself. 

Here, I describe some ways you might go about that.

Here is a starter for 10, as they say: What does the picture below mean to you? If it is puzzling, take a moment to focus on it. Just notice the thoughts coming into your head – whatever comes. 

Maybe write down any reactions or questions – the first 100 words that arrive. You may find it interesting if you return to these first thoughts sometime in the future.

 

Inverted Tree 4

What choices will you make to direct your new roots in a different direction today?

These small, safe experiments have been so close to me, for so long, that I needed this project to see what the wood would look like… and not feel lost in the trees!

Therefore, building this web site is one of my late-in-life, safe experiments – with thanks to my son, Alan for technical help and my daughter, Jane for inspiration.

I believe my experiment may be of use to others. I think, in particular, of clients – both past, present and to come. Anyone with a natural curiosity may find it helpful to practise the safe experiments identified on this web site.

Overtime, you will create and develop your own MY-NUAL.

Science warning: I have been asked about the way small, safe experiments are different from those used by conventional scientists. There are large differences – not least because the same experiment will often end up with a different result, at different times – and I assert that it’s OK for that to happen!

Let me know your views on these differences as you read on.

 

POSSIBLE WAYS FORWARD

A first preparation might be to have on hand a notebook that will record the results of your enquiries and the different outcomes you are about to generate.

One way forward:  take a look to the right of this page and notice the various headings. You could choose one page quite randomly. That’s a safe experiment; either the page will have some meaning to you,  or it might not. Whatever happens – it’s not your fault; nor is it my fault.  It’s simply the result of the action taken.

A small safe experiment does not exist without a result that is noticed.

So, what do you learn when a page has some meaning [I call this a small victory] and, more importantly, what do you learn when a page appears confusing or without meaning [I call this a small defeat]. 

More importantly again, what do you do about your small victory or your small defeat.

A further way forward would be to use the Search box. That’s at the top, right of THIS page.

Search for any word of interest to you. You could do that now. When you type in your chosen word, and press the search button, a number of pages will be listed containing your chosen word, if it’s anywhere on this website.

Then you have an additional small, safe experiment available to you; chose just one page to explore in greater detail and see if that says anything to you at all!

What word would you choose to search?

A final way forward I would suggestion would be to head for the page headed ‘What is a nudge‘. This provides my first thoughts on ‘nudging’. There, I start to explain about ‘safe experimenting’, and offer some examples.  It is an introduction to nudging yourself into making changes in your life when you want to do that! I’d ask you to use all my material to nudge yourself, not other people.

There is at least one other choice you have at hand:  not to do any of the things I have suggested.

Let me know if you hit a snag navigating my web site. You can do this by adding a comment – found at the bottom of the page – or by sending an email to:

robintrewartha@btinternet.com.

Email is best if there are specific questions so my feedback can be incorporated into a another page of commentary. You will notice how, over several years now, additional pages have appeared. These wer often stimulated by questions I have been asked, or observations from visitors.

For clients and ex-clients, it will help me if you post a comment on my contribution to the practice of psychological therapy. This will keep me on the ball!

 

You need not read this website page by page.

You may need to left-click or right click (to obtain a new window), when using hyper-links. By the nature of the Internet, hyper-links can come and go. Do let me know when one particular link no longer works. I’ll look out an alternative.

I do not want you to follow the nudges included here simply because I recommend them.

There a lot of nudges I recommend; these are based on things I have seen others try.

Some will be relevant to you; others will not. The timing for one nudge may not be quite right today; another time, the same nudge may hit the nail on the head.

I want my information to help you recognise a nudge for what it is. When you design your own steps it can lead to an improved ability to build on successes or adapt to unexpected/unwanted results. Often adaptations are forced on us, as we discovered in the Spring 2020 pubic health crisis. Those changes do not mean there are still no choices open to us even if it feels like that sometimes.

I will use personal example from time to time to see if that adds some richness to the learning of others. I do not want this to appear self-indulgent;  I believe my own illustrations may appear more genuine if I tell you how the material applies to me.

The material you are about to generate can provide a tool for your own personal development.  However, some of it may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. If you need some leads to follow up, then let me know.  The important things is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.

For some outcomes or challenges, you may conclude that the support of a well-qualified practitioner is necessary.

When I designed this web site, I wanted to use an organised approach. I went with the dimensions of SPACE, TIME, BODY and SPIRITThese four categories shaped me into who I am today and they are categories you and I share. Each element of space, time, body and spirit will play a part in determining who we are – shaping the problems that are presented to us, defining the way we face them, and what milestones we achieve (or not) as we develop and grow. Each category offers to provide a whole range of safe experiments.

Over time, I have created links to other websites of interest as well as to other pages on this website. All this is intended to help with your research into how you might design your own small, safe experiment.

It’s difficult to learn or adapt without respecting the results of your own actions; your own safe experiments.

A note on Advertising: you should find no advertisements on this web site.  I have been offered no inducement to provide the substantial number of hyperlinks. They worked for me when I completed my research for this site; that’s it.


As said above,  you can find out more about me on: About the Author page. You can find out more about my own view of therapy here. I doubt it’s the best place to start, but that’s for you to decide.

Here’s a small sample of some pages on this website that might be of interest to you:

What is a nudge

How to design small, safe experiments

Safe experiments in time and space

Safe experiments using Smart Objectives

Relaxation techniques

Body Scanning and ‘thinking-about-breathing’

Communicating with small, safe experiments

Taking your time

Safe experiments and our ‘spirit’

….. and, finally, for now, after you have done a few safe experiments, consider:

how will you review the work you have done

 

Happy Hunting!