Welcome to Find Your Nudge

I am Robin. 

I am a semi-retired chartered and registered psychologist in the UK.

For those planning to visit me in person, you may be interested in my background. These details are in About the Author. In addition, on that page, there is a video so you can see who you are visiting!!

The web site provides a large collection of safe experiments that I have collated with my clients over decades. We have designed and tried them out over many years.

If this web site is about any thing, it is a psychological form of  “personalised medicine” with at least one rather important difference:  medicine cannot afford for personalised treatment to fail routinely; people die.

This web site demonstrates that a small defeat with a small, safe experiment from this collection is an essential part of effective psychological therapy.

Here is a starter for 10, as they say: What does the picture below mean to you? If it is puzzling, take a moment to focus on it. Just notice the thoughts coming into your head – whatever comes. 

Maybe write down any reactions or questions – the first 100 words that arrive.You may find it interesting if you return to these first thoughts sometime in the future.


Inverted Tree 4

What choices will you make to direct your new roots in a different direction today?

I feel that these small, safe experiments have been so close to me, for so long, that I needed to see what the wood would look like… and not be so lost in the trees!

Therefore, building this web site is my late-in-life, safe experiment – with thanks to my son, Alan for technical help and my daughter, Jane for inspiration.

I believe my experiment may be of use to others. I think, in particular, of clients – both past, present and to come. Anyone with a natural curiosity may find it helpful to practise the safe experiments identified on this web site.

Overtime, you will create and develop your own MY-NUAL.

Science warning: I have been asked about the way small, safe experiments are different from those used by conventional scientists. There are large differences – not least because the same experiment will often end up with a different result, at differnt times – and it’s OK for that to happen!

Let me know if these differences do not become more apparent as you read on.



A first, safe experiment might be to have on hand a note book that will being to draw out those differences.

To use this web site, take a look to the right of this page and notice the various headings.

You might head for the page headed ‘What is a nudge‘. This provides my first thoughts on ‘good nudging’, as compared to exploitative nudging. There, I start to explain about ‘safe experimenting’, and offer some first examples.  It is an introduction to nudging yourself into making changes in your life – your nudges – when you want to do them!

The other choices you have at hand include not doing what I have suggested.

Or you can move back-and-forth between the different pages and posts.Let me know if you hit a snag navigating my web site. You can do this by adding a comment – usually found at the bottom of the page – or by sending an email to:


Email is best if there are specific questions so my feedback can be incorporated into a another page of commentary. You will notice how, over several years now, additional pages have appeared based on questions I have been asked, or comments made by visitors.

It will help me if you post a comment on my contribution to the practice of psychological therapy.


You need not read this web site page by page.

You may need to left-click or right click (to obtain a new window), when using hyper-links. By the nature of the Internet, hyper-links can come and go. Do let me know when one particular link appears to be redundant. I’ll look out an alternative.

I do not want you to follow the nudges included here simply because I recommend them.

There a lot of nudges I recommend; these are based on things I have seen others try.

Some will be relevant to you; others will not. The timing for one nudge may not be quite right today; another times, the same nudge may hit the nail on the head.

I want my information to help you recognise a nudge for what it is. When you design your own steps it can lead to an improved ability to build on successes or adapt to unexpected/unwanted results. Often adaptations are forced on us, as we discovered in the Spring 2020 pubic health crisis. Those changes do not mean there are still no choices open to us.

I will use personal example from time to time to see if that adds some richness to the learning of others. I do not want this to appear self-indulgent and I believe my proposals may appear more genuine if I tell you how the material applies to me.

The material you are about to generate can provide a tool for your own personal development.  However, some of it may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. If you need some leads to follow up, then let me know. 

The important things is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.

For some outcomes, you may conclude that the support of a well-qualified practitioner is necessary.

When I designed this web site, I wanted to use an organised approach and I went with the dimensions of SPACE, TIME, BODY and SPIRITThese four categories seem, to me, to cover a whole range of safe experiments. Over time, I have created links to other pages on this web site to help with your research into these categories.

Each element of space, time, body and spirit will play a part in determining who we are – the problems that are presented to us, the way we face them, and what milestones we achieve (or not) as we develop and grow.

A note on Advertising: you should find no advertisements on this web site.  I have been offered no inducement to provide the substantial number of hyperlinks. They simply worked for me when I completed my research for this site.

If it helps, you can find out more about me on: About the Author page. You can find out more about my own view of therapy here. I doubt it’s the best place to start, but that’s for you to decide.

A possible start, in my view, is the page: What is a nudge. This is  where I started to collect practical suggestions from over the years. Some other pages that might be of interest are:

What is a nudge

How to design small, safe experiments

Safe experiments in time and space

Safe experiments using Smart Objectives

Relaxation techniques

Body Scanning and ‘thinking-about-breathing’

Communicating with small, safe experiments

Taking your time

Safe experiments and our ‘spirit’

….. and, finally, for now, after you have done a few safe experiments, consider:

how will you review the work you have done