Welcome to Find Your Nudge



March 2020

During the current public health crisis, and until further notice,  I am providing my readers with a free consultation, conducted in English and recorded, for around 15 minutes.

Consultations will be on-line, via Zoom.

Your request, along with at least two suggested dates and times (British Summer Time: BST=GMT+1),  can be made to me at:




Otherwise, start on-line with this starting question:


What does the picture below mean to you?

If it is puzzling, take a moment to focus on it.

Just notice the thoughts coming into your head – whatever comes. 

Maybe write down any reactions or questions – the first 100 words that arrive.

You may find it interesting if you return to these first thoughts in the future.


Inverted Tree 4

You can choose the direction for your new roots to follow.

This web site has been developed to help me organise the information I have gathered during my career. I wanted to see for myself some of the ideas I have gathered over the years – all in one place. I feel that they have been so close to me, for so long, that I needed to see what the wood would look like… and not be so lost in the trees!

Therefore, building this web site is my late-in-life, safe experiment – with thanks to my son, Alan for technical help and my daughter, Jane for inspiration.

I believe my experiment may be of use to others. I think, in particular, of clients – both past, present and to come. Anyone with a natural curiosity may find it helpful to practise the safe experiments identified on this web site.

Overtime, you will create and develop your own MY-NUAL.


To use this web site, try this:

Look to the right of this page and notice the various headings. Head for the page headed ‘What is a nudge‘. This is my first thoughts on ‘safe experiments’ and what they might be. It is an introduction to nudging yourself into making changes in your life – when you want to do that!


Thereafter, you should be able to move back-and-forth between the different pages and posts, so let me know if you hit a snag navigating my web site. You can do this by adding a comment – usually found at the bottom of each page – or by sending an email to:


Email are best if there are specific questions so my feedback can be incorporated into a another page of commentary. You will notice how, over several years now, several additional pages have appeared based on questions I have been asked, or comments made by visitors.


You need not read this web site page by page.

You may need to left-click or right click (to obtain a new window), when using hyper-links. By the nature of the Internet, hyper-links can come and go. Do let me know when one particular link appears to be redundant. I’ll look out an alternative.

I do not want you to follow the nudges included here simply because I recommend them. There a lot of nudges I recommend; these are based on things I have seen others try. Some will be relevant to you; others will not. The timing for one nudge may not be right,  and other times, the same nudge will hit the nail on the head.

I want my information to help you recognise a nudge for what it is. When you design your own steps it can lead to an improved ability to build on successes or adapt to unexpected/unwanted results.

I will use personal example from time to time to see if that adds some richness to the learning of others. I do not want this to appear self-indulgent; I believe my proposals may appear more genuine if I tell you how the material applies to me.

The material you are about to generate can provide a tool for your own personal development.  However, some of it may have an emotional impact on you. Therefore, you may want to work on your personal development with a consultant. If you need some leads to follow up, then let me know. 

The important things is to find some-one reliable and discreet outside your immediate circle of friends or family.

For some outcomes, you may conclude that the support of a well-qualified practitioner is necessary.

When I designed this web site, I wanted to use an organised approach and I went with the dimensions of SPACE, TIME, BODY and SPIRITThese four categories seem, to me, to cover a whole range of safe experiments. In time, you may be able to see links to other pages on this web site to research each elements.

Each element plays a part in determining who we are – the problems that are presented to us, the way we face them, and what milestones we achieve (or not) as we develop and grow.

A note on Advertising: you should find no advertisements on this web site. All hyperlinks are offered to you without any inducement. They worked for me when I completed my research for this site.

It will be helpful if you could post comments on the various articles and posts to be found on the right of this Welcome page. Alternatively, start on the page: What is a nudge  where I started to collect practical suggestions from over the years.


If it helps, you can find out more about me on: About the Author page. You can find out more about my own view of therapy here. I doubt it’s the best place to start, but that’s for you to decide.

Go on to:

What is a nudge

How to design small, safe experiments

Safe experiments in time and space

Safe experiments ujsing Smart Objectives

Relaxation techniques

Body Scanning and ‘thinking-about-breathing’

Communicating with small, safe experiments

Taking your time

Safe experiments and our ‘spirit’

….. and, finally, for now, after you have done a few safe experiments, consider:

how will you review the work you have done