I have been asked about the way safe experiments fit together. My main blog does read like a long list but there is a thread linking them all.
I was reluctant to identify that thread as it comes out just like another model!
However, what do you make of this?
What this map is saying is that ‘safe experiments’ help expand our “Window of Tolerance” so that change can happen in small steps. The ever-present risk for any of us is, that under pressure, it is easy to become confused. For others, it is easy to become rigid in our problem-solving (“this is the way I’ve always done things”).
In the extremes of confusion and rigidity, change struggles to be effective. Therapy provides a window in which the process of change can be safely contained and help things happen. This is not guaranteed, of course, and it is only too easy to slip back into old, familiar ways – even if they are ways that do not work for us. Because they are familiar, we can prefer them!
So the diagram points out that our performance suffers when we are in chaos or rigid in our problem solving. Therapy can improve performance by supporting small amounts of change that will emerge from small victories and small defeats – as long as we know what is going on and can ask that question: what step can I take now to do something a little bit different?
So, if this is going to be of any help at all: consider, what encourages you into chaos or rigidity, or both. What can you do to focus your attention on your Window of Tolerance so some small step – otherwise lost in the mist – can be taken NOW?