Recently I have revisited this area of Transactional Analytic (TA) thinking. Although Drivers are ‘normal’, there are a some people who want to work on safe experiments to ‘inoculate’ themselves from the adverse impact of Drivers and to foster their ‘Allowers’ instead – that is, the OK-side to Drivers.
Drivers and Scripts can ‘imprison’ us in a particular patterns of behaving. As the messages are instilled into us during childhood, and reinforced in adolescence, what needs to be done to make the unconscious, conscious?
So, what are ‘Drivers’ as TA sees them?
Take a look at these web-sites, as listed, to read accounts of the Five TA Drivers. That’ll save me having to summarise things here!
and you can find an interesting chart at:
…. and a coaching angle at:
I include this last reference as it acknowledges the work of Taibi Kahler, Mavis Klein and Mary Cox; each has played a large part in developing the TA model (and the last two I remember well from my own training a good few decades ago!)
As you look through this material, consider the following questions:
- If Drivers are unconscious motivators, what might I do to identify my own Driver behaviour. Tracey’s chart might help here.
- How much of my time is spent being Driven by the five messages, as summarised?
- Does a ‘favourite’ Driver (or two) emerge from your reflections?
- How would you prefer it to be sometime in the near future?
- What small safe experiments might help me to understand what a Driver is and how I might relate to Drivers differently?
- What are my ‘Allowers’; the antidotes to Drivers and how well do I use them, day-to-day?
All safe experiments need to be recorded so the small and subtle results do not get lost. Here, the answers to your questions are important as you may find the need to return to the notes more than once.
So what about ‘Allowers’?
Back to Manchester for some thoughts on that topic.
…. a site with a free guide to TA, if that is of help to you.
The antidotes to consider when designing your safe experiment around Drivers would be to identify how to turn your Driver into your Allower. For instance:
Driver: Hurry Up into Allower: Take Your Time.
Driver: Be Strong into Allower: Be Open And Express Your Wants.
Driver: Be Perfect inot Allower: You Are Good Enough As You Are.
Driver: Try Hard into Allower: Just do It.
Driver: Please others into Allower: Please Yourself.
I’ll be returning to this topic in the future as there is much to be said about our Life “Script”, but here are my preliminary thoughts and encouragers to you.