Letting the Ripple Effect work for you

Echoes help

Slow and steady changes need to be tested and re-tested as ‘untidiness’ arises in most real worlds. Some changes will be more welcome that others. Therapy helps me to test out what works well, and what is less useful in actual practice.

The process may be helped by researching the range of models of therapy. I offer some information on them in my page on different therapies.

In practice, the relationship you develop with a therapist can be an important factor in helping our understanding of our bodies, our sensations, our behaviour, our relationships, our ways of communicating and belonging. All these things shape our place in the world.

Some therapies focus on just a few elements of the body scan; on this page, I concentrate on two examples:

…..  so do follow these leads for further information. I cannot do justice to these complex topics and you will need explore what engages your interest. If you can raise your curiosity, then take your researches beyond this website.

My main point – on this page – is to highlight how small, safe experiments can continue outside the consulting room. Some can continue to work for a life-time; long after you have completed a therapy contract.

For the present, I will finish on a few of the ‘do-able’ things; some first safe experiments you may find helpful. They are ones you can continue to use into the future. The support of a therapist is not always needed to ensure you reap rewards from them.

Summarising and Looking ahead

EXPERIMENT Return the to Road Map experiment, and any notes you have made around it. Expand it by concentrating on your first five years;

  • where you were born,
  • where did you live,
  • what was your place in the family?
  • who were your care-takers, parents, brother, sisters and relatives.
  • who lived close by, and who lived at a distance.
  • who did you see a lot,  and who were the distant, if not mysterious relatives?

Safe experiments are not easy but you can set your own rules, as long as you stand by the results you generate in your own unique fashion.

Withe this information you may feel able to ….

Start a process of relaxation

There are many ways to relax and the Internet, particularly YouTube, is weighed down with examples. Here is a simple, and short, beginning I’d offer to you.

Find a place and a few minutes in which to relax. Just notice your:

POSTURE: when you have just noticed what you ‘normally’ do, change your posture to be upright, looking straight ahead with your hands on your knees or upper leg. Keep your feet firmly on the floor.

BREATHING: again, just notice what you ‘normally’ do. It is likely to be shallow, breathing on to a count of two, and even following a varying rhythm. This is me on auto-pilot. Change your behaviour so your mouth is closed. Breathing in only through the nose (this regulates the volume of air you will take in). Change your count to a slow ‘three’. Observe the impact of that small change. Start with the same slow count for both in-breaths and out-breaths. When you investigate small, safe experiment further, you will find a number of different breathing patterns to follow.  Look up ‘diaphragmatic breathing’, for example.

BODY SCAN: attend to the thoughts, feelings and sensations in your  body starting with your feet. Allow your attention to move up one lower leg and then the other. Continue this ‘scan’ with your upper legs and  posterior region  Move slowly and methodically to your stomach and lower back, continuing up into the rib cage and lower neck. Finish by scanning your neck and head until you reach the tallest hair on your head. As you do all this, be attentive to any experience in your body. When you notice something that makes you curious, attend to it and develop an experiment to explore it. Allow any tension from that spot to ease as you let it go on each out-breath. You can complete the body scan when you have given attention to each and every tension in your body and reached the very top of your head.

FOCUS: if you still have your eyes open, you can focus your attention on a fixed object in your upper vision and just to one side. If you have closed your eyes, focus on each and every disturbance of thought feeling and sensation. Repeat the body scan, if it helps. From time to time, ‘just notice’ your experience and let it pass. Sometimes it may help to simply say ‘hello’ to an experience and ask it to pass.

ATTENTION: continue to use your breathing to attention to any unwanted tension in your muscles or body. Use internal dialogue to acknowledge some disturbances or use other self-talk or diversionary strategies, as you wish. In time these strategies may become  surplus to requirement.

EYES: if your eyes remain open, they are likely to feel tired. This may become more so as you play with any images around the fixed object. Allow your eyes to close in your own time. Meditate on any image created within your ‘inner eye’.

This process can continue for a few minutes or for longer, as you wish, or as time allows.

When you have finished, you may want to make a brief note about your experience, and just notice what impact the event had on those initial thoughts about your ‘road map’.  Notes do not need to be detailed and extensive. Post-Its do it for me, if it helps. You have disengaged your automatic pilot and you will have responded differently for a time.

It’s worth knowing what those difference are. For instance, it is possible to observe our body responses – say, tight lungs or an unsettled stomach, and find that they are not the `monster’ they may have seemed; after all, you may have found some level of control over those symptoms.

Reflecting to stay curious

Reflect on how you can stay curious about these experiences,  and just notice any tendency to judge them as ‘bad’, ‘unhelpful’ or to be avoided. Can you suspend judgement for a moment and consider:

what is this response telling me, now?

To conclude, think on this point: if you go into therapy you are not likely to spend more than 30-40 hours a year working with a therapist. Most sessions will last one hour, say, once a week. 

That means there are over 165 hours spent in your every-day world, for every hour you spend in therapy. More problematically, you will not spend your life-time in therapy, so please do the maths on that!


Therapy needs to be a preparation for experimenting in everyday world. If therapy becomes a substitute for living, this may not be helpful. Outside therapy, there are so many more minutes in which to practise conscious changes, and to note the outcomes.

Consider this graphic I have drawn up:

If Item 3 is difficult to read, it says “I enter therapy and practise the design and implementation of small, safe experiments”. A slightly familiar comment for this website, eh?

In short, if therapy is to be helpful, then it will provide you with tools that work after you’ve finished in the consulting room. With the extra tools you can gone on improving your own safe experiments.

Change will come – maybe slowly, but steadily. In my opinion, good therapy will have helped you observe that change and see that it is directed it in the way that you prefer.

That process can continue throughout our lives – whether your life is short or long.

Some alternative leads to consider

What is a nudge?

What might be helpful in therapy?

A systematic view of small ‘safe experiments’

Reviewing the work completed


More on the way change might work.

An Index of pages on Your Nudge

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