I have written a lot about the things I have learned working with clients over many years. Then there have been colleagues – supervisors, teachers and mentors.
This page sets out to say something to colleagues: to therapists who see clients. Apologies for teaching grandmothers to suck eggs (are you allowed to say this these days?!)
I am going to mention just one quality YOU need. There are many, of course, in a good practitioner, but let’s start with just one.
It is a quality needed by both practitioners and clients to ensure that safe experiments do not simply become tasks.
It is ……………………….. CURIOSITY
You may not have been trained in how to generate it, but its there …………. somewhere. Some have it, others don’t.
ALL can search for it and then PLAY with it. Anyone who saw the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu in conversation on Joy will have noticed how that can work!
One obstacle to curiousity is giving ourselves over to schools and ‘founders’ of schools who tell us all we need to know. Although I understand the necessity of training, I’d encourage some scepticism about learning. My own ex-students might endorse this or, indeed, stay sceptical!
What professsional small, safe experiments might be done to side-step the tendency to go along with training in order to make it all fit together?
See this page for further discussion.
Good therapy is built on the shoulders of giants and rarely nipped out of thin air one afternoon walking the road to Damascus.
P.S If any visiting readers of this page are not therapists, then I like your approach to doing experiments. Doing what you want, and taking the consequences of so doing!