On this website, I make regular comments about ‘how would you like it to be different….?’ This is particularly important attitude in the face of small defeats. When I step outside my Window of Tolerance (WoT), it is only too easy to adopt an extreme response such as catastrophising, rather than Think, Judge and Act.
A SAFE EXPERIMENT
Print off this picture, below, if it helps. It represents your face. Makes brief notes arising from this small, safe experiment.
What do you believe about yourself; from this list, what messages stick out?
Write down just 2 or 3 key beliefs – positive or negative – on the face illustration contained below.
After that, consider, what ‘favourite’ feelings you may experience? Here are a few that might ring a bell. Again, chose just 2 or 3 feelings that chime with you and write them on the ‘face’ diagram, below.
Finally, consider the sensations that you feel most often. Here are some examples:
Heat: boiling, warm, cool, cold etc.
Touch: light, heavy. clammy
Heaviness in some body parts, e.g. legs
Lightness or ‘emptiness’
Movement: vibration, shaking, wobbling, bubbling, rippling etc.
Itching: e.g. nose quivers and/or itches.
Make a note of 2 or 3 sensations that are current or common for you.
When the list is completed, take a short time to explore whether your lists surprise you, or are they much as you expected.
FURTHER EXPERIMENT: Take a break from your note-taking. Later, when you return to the picture, consider this:
… do I still view these notes the same? If not, what has changed? Is there anything you did that seems connected to the changes you now observe?
Is there anything I would like to change now; if so, how might I go about that?
How would I prefer things to be?
What might stop me doing
something just a little bit different?
Then design some ‘do-able’ things that flow from your ideas. As ever, make a note of the results you obtain and save your results for further review.