On this website, I make regular comments about ‘how would you like it to be different….?’ This is particularly important attitude in the face of small defeats. When I step outside my Window of Tolerance (WoT), it is only too easy to adopt an extreme response such as catastrophising, rather than Think, Judge and Act.
A SAFE EXPERIMENT
Print off this picture, right at the bottom of this page. It can represent your face.
Makes brief notes arising from this small, safe experiment.
What do you believe about yourself; from this list, what messages stick out?
Write down just 2 or 3 key beliefs – positive or negative – on the face illustration contained below.
After that, consider, what ‘favourite’ feelings you may experience? Here are a few that might ring a bell. Again, chose just 2 or 3 feelings that chime with you and write them on the ‘face’ diagram, below.
Finally, consider the sensations that you feel most often. Here are some examples:
Heat: boiling, warm, cool, cold etc.
Touch: light, heavy. clammy
Heaviness in some body parts, e.g. legs
Lightness or ‘emptiness’
Movement: vibration, shaking, wobbling, bubbling, rippling etc.
Itching: e.g. nose quivers and/or itches.
Make a note of 2 or 3 sensations that are current or common for you.
When the list is completed, take a short time to explore whether your lists surprise you, or are they much as you expected.
FURTHER EXPERIMENT: Take a break from your note-taking. Later, when you return to the picture, consider:
… do I still view these notes the same? If not, what has changed?
Is there anything you did that seems connected to the changes you now observe?
Is there anything I would like to change now; if so, how might I go about that?
How would I prefer things to be?
What might stop me doing …….
what’s the something just a little bit different I can do?